by Isabella Vale
I’ve always had a soft spot for The Hermit. It’s one of those cards that speaks in whispers, not declarations. When The Hermit shows up in a feelings reading, it often reflects something quieter than love songs or fireworks — and yet, something just as powerful.
The Hermit is the seeker, the soul who steps away from the noise to hear the truth more clearly. So when you pull this card in response to a feelings question — maybe you’re wondering how someone feels about you, or how you truly feel about them — this card can be both illuminating and humbling.
Let’s explore what The Hermit might be telling you in both its upright and reversed positions.
Upright Hermit as Feelings
When The Hermit appears upright in a feelings spread, it often reflects emotional introspection. The person in question may be processing deep feelings in solitude. This doesn’t mean they don’t care — quite the opposite. They might care so much that they’ve gone inward to make sense of it.
This card can symbolize someone who is emotionally mature and doesn’t rush into things. They’re likely seeking a connection that feels soulful and authentic. Sometimes, they just need space to understand what their heart truly wants.
In a romantic context, The Hermit upright might indicate a deep soul-searching phase. They could be quietly contemplating the bond, trying to understand their role in it. Or perhaps they feel your connection has led them to awaken something spiritual in themselves.
For me, whenever I’ve pulled The Hermit in a personal reading about someone I love, it’s reminded me to give space without assuming disinterest. Love isn’t always loud — sometimes it’s sitting alone under a night sky, feeling everything all at once.
Reversed Hermit as Feelings
When The Hermit comes through reversed, it often points to emotional withdrawal that may be rooted in fear or confusion. Rather than a healthy solitude, it can signal isolation — a closing off rather than a tuning in.
The person may be feeling lost in their own emotions, unsure how to express them, or afraid to reconnect. They might long for intimacy but feel safer in retreat. Or perhaps they’ve been alone so long that connection feels unfamiliar or even overwhelming.
If this comes up in your reading, it can also be a nudge to reflect on your own patterns. Are you withdrawing emotionally? Are you waiting for someone to come out of their cave, when perhaps they’re not ready?
The reversed Hermit invites compassion — both for yourself and for whoever this card might be pointing to.
Final Thoughts
The Hermit doesn’t scream answers. It invites patience, silence, and self-trust. Whether upright or reversed, this card in a feelings reading is a reminder that not all emotional clarity comes instantly. Sometimes, the most heartfelt truths are found in stillness.
So if this card finds you today, take a breath. Go within. Listen. The answers are waiting in the quiet.
With stillness and insight,
Isabella Vale